Please could I have your advice.

For over 30 years my mum was totally devoted to me and my siblings. For 5 years she had the most heartbreaking illness. She become more and more paralyzed and recently passed away. My half-sister had lasting power of attorney. She said that she was going to give herself money from my mum’s account to "cover her expenses". How can I be sure that she didn’t take too much?

Now mum’s flat is being sold *really* quickly on the cheap. I feel this is perhaps not what mum would have wanted because the property value will almost certainly rise in the future.

I am also worried that the flat will be sold for more than the official price. E.g. sold for £180,000 with the rest of the family being told it was only sold for £120,000. The undeclared amount would presumably be split between the solicitor and my sister and her husband (or maybe my sister doesn’t know – with her husband and the solicitor in secret agreement). I am not saying that this is happening but just that I owe it to mum to make sure it doesn’t happen. But I don’t know how. I feel so powerless. Please could I have your advice?

I am asking this question since I went through 3 losses two years ago come July. I spoke about it on here a while ago, but since have just got on with things.

To speak briefly, as I dont wish to go on, my parents split in July 2008. My Dad then practically made my Mum and I homeless, as he sold our much loved family home of 15 years, and moved down south, so Mum and I had to buy somewhere quickly, even though the old place hadnt sold. My Dad already had another property he bought for my sister when she was at uni, so moved there. Mum and I were living basically on the breadline for a whole year. At the same time, my Grandad was dying of dementia, and every time I went to see him, he got worse, until the time came when I last saw him alive, he was practically dead, just breathing quietly, not opening his eyes. We had to try and look after him, toilet him and feed him etc, as even though he was in a care home, the staff were sometimes rushed off their feet and not always had time.

He died in December 2008 right before Christmas. My Dad didnt bother to show for the funeral, due to a petty argument over finances with my Mum, and I felt quite hurt, as he knew him for years. Since then, I have tried to just get on with things, I am at uni and getting on with life, but I feel absolutely drained of any emotion except for anger. It only takes a flatmate to speak on the phone next door, and I am banging on the walls, telling them to shut up.

I can talk to a friend about this, but he has loads on just now so I feel terrible bombarding him. There is no compassion left, and I said something really uncalled for the other day about a friend of his who was dying, which otherwise I would have passed on my regards.

I am trying to pinpoint when I first started becoming "emotionless", and I am not sure if it is these events, or the fact I have tried to keep in contact with my Dad but he always makes excuses, and blatantly lies about not seeing other women. Havent seen him since last November. I split with my ex last Christmas, and although I ended it, not sure if that could be added to the "loss" list.

So can people really become emotionless through many losses over a period of time? Would just like some answers. I am seeing a psychiatric nurse at the moment who I can talk through things, but would like to hear from others on here. Many thanks